Note: I'm reposting this, updated, from 2014. Still rings true to me.
Card Making and SAT scores
A stamper wrote that she enters a lot of challenges and never wins. Her
attempts to get on design teams have failed. She buys a lot from a
couple of companies hoping to get the companies' attention. They have
ignored her efforts. She is crushed and angry and clueless as to why
this is happening.
I read this and winced.
We all wince when we recognize that feeling -- failure is hard. It is
even harder when you have no idea why you are being rejected. No one
posts a comment that says "no focal point" "messy layers" "too many
colors". We are nice to each other in internet land, and that is as it
should be. So it is hard to learn unless we are willing to ask. Asking means taking a risk.
However, once I did ask.
It was the practice in my high school to go to the principal and share
your SAT scores with her. I knocked on Sr. Ellen's door and walked in. My scores were mediocre, and I was unhappy, particularly since I was a
strong student in an academically rigorous high school. I wanted to
know why my scores weren't higher. Not skipping a beat, Sr. Ellen
looked me in the eye and told me that I wasn't very smart -- that my
good grades were the result of my hard work, not my native intelligence.
She did not say this with admiration -- almost pity.
I left her
office stunned. I remember thinking "I thought I was smart but I'm
not."
Turns out that you do not need a high SAT score to live a good life; indeed there is a lot of evidence that SAT scores don't accurately reflect achievement. But even if they did -- even if being on a design team reflects skill and talent, is it worth the angst?
So here's my message to the stamper who feels the stun of rejection or
failure. Maybe you are like I am. I've never been the best in the
room at anything I've ever tried. I've always been surrounded by better lawyers, better cooks, better housekeepers. I'm not the star anything.
But even with my limitations,
my humanity, I've succeeded when it really mattered -- in my heart I
know that I have loved and am loved. The rest, including card making and design teams and SAT scores and blunt principals, is gravy.
So, if you can find it in yourself to enjoy stamping without that definition of "winning," pick up that ink pad and stamp. And relax and enjoy it. Smile. And
smile again and again, knowing that you are doing something you enjoy. And if you still yearn to do design work, ask yourself why and if you are happy with the answer, change things up. Reach out and ask folks for ideas on how to improve.
Sometimes mixing a hobby with competition just doesn't work. Not
everyone gets an 800 or even a 500 in card making. But
everyone can get get an 800 in sending a card to a friend or a stranger,
knowing that it will bring a smile to that person.
You be the judge on who the winner is in that competition.